Wednesday, October 7, 2026

Thoughts on Joy: Finding Strength When Life is Heavy

Standing in the literal ruins of their city, weeping over their failures, the people of Israel felt entirely weak and exposed. It was in that exact moment of brokenness that Nehemiah spoke some of the most famous words in Scripture: "Do not sorrow, for the joy of the Lord is your strength." It’s a beautiful verse, but if we are honest, choosing joy feels incredibly difficult when life gets heavy. Following the passing of Margi’s parents this last month, our family has been navigating the bittersweet tension of grief and eternal hope. Through loss, we've had to relearn what it means to find strength in the ruins, discovering that true joy is forged by the Holy Spirit precisely when our own strength runs out. 

If we are completely honest, the word "joy" can sometimes feel intimidating—especially when life feels heavy and the grief is fresh. We live in a world that constantly sells us a counterfeit version of joy. It offers a temporary, fragile happiness that requires perfect circumstances to exist. The world tells us that if things are going well, we should be happy. But when those perfect circumstances vanish, our happiness goes right along with them. But biblical joy is completely different. 

The Anatomy of True Joy 
To understand true joy, it helps to look at the language of the New Testament. The Greek word for joy is chara. It is closely tied to its root word charis, which means "grace." According to Strong's Greek Dictionary, that root literally means "to lean towards" or "to be favorably disposed. "Therefore, biblical joy (chara) is grace recognized. Joy is the spiritual soul-satisfaction that automatically flourishes within a person once they truly comprehend and rest in the grace of God. It is our soul's natural reaction to the work of God, whether that work is already fulfilled or still a future promise. Joy is not a fleeting emotion or a product of positive thinking. It is a deep, supernatural anchor forged in the soul by the Holy Spirit. Our circumstances do not define our story—God does. Happiness depends on what happens around us, but biblical joy depends on Who lives in us. Because Jesus is the same yesterday, today, and forever, our joy can be just as stable as He is. It is a quiet confidence that whispers, "Things are hard right now, but God is still on the throne, my eternity is secure, and His promises are true." 

Finding Strength in the Ruins 
We see this beautifully illustrated in Nehemiah 8:10: Then he said to them, "Go your way, eat the fat and drink the sweet, and send portions to those for whom nothing is prepared; for this day is holy to our Lord. Do not sorrow, for the joy of the Lord is your strength. "When Nehemiah spoke these words, the people of Israel weren't celebrating an easy victory. They were standing in the literal ruins of Jerusalem. They were listening to the reading of God's Law and weeping bitterly over their past failures. They felt weak, exposed, and entirely overwhelmed by the situation they were in. Yet, it was precisely in that place of brokenness that they were reminded: God's joy would be their strength. Centuries later, the Psalmist echoed this same invitation to anchor ourselves in God's unchanging nature rather than our temporary situations: Sing to the LORD, all the world! Worship the LORD with joy; come before him with happy songs! Acknowledge that the LORD is God. He made us, and we belong to him; we are his people, we are his flock. Enter the Temple gates with thanksgiving; go into its courts with praise. Give thanks to him and praise him. The LORD is good; his love is eternal and his faithfulness lasts forever. — Psalm 100:1-5

Three Ways to Practice Joy Today 
When the clouds of life gather, how do we practically hold onto this supernatural anchor? Here are three things I find incredibly helpful: 

1. Shift Your Gaze Is there a difficult circumstance that has been robbing you of your peace lately? Instead of staring at the problem, look at the character of God. Choose to actively rehearse God’s past faithfulness in your life. 

2. Choose Joy Rejoicing is often a deliberate choice before it is an emotional feeling. Tomorrow morning, wake up and intentionally thank God for His presence before you look at your to-do list, your phone, or the news. 

3. Lean into the Spirit We cannot manufacture this kind of joy on our own strength. Ask the Holy Spirit to cultivate His supernatural fruit within your heart today, trusting that His grace is always